Friday, July 22, 2011
should couples tell each other every thing?
as women we live with this dream that we need to know everything about the person we are with. is this necessary? is it positive to know every deep dark, back of the closet secret that you partner has. will it make you love them less? i think not. i made the mistake of trying too reach that no secrets between us goal and i made myself look like an idiot. i want to be honest with my partner, but i don't want them to think in the back of their head "what the hell was i thinking!" if you are in a relationship with someone you love them for who they are now, not who they where then. so is it necessary to know everything they have ever done. the thing that pledges me is what is too much? do you think people that have been married 50 years know everything about each other? probably not they have 50 years of memories they made together and the stuff before that doesn't really matter. so fellow women we need to let go of this dream and realize there are thing we don't need to know and there are things we don't need to share. I'm not saying we shouldn't share our childhood with our partners, but those stupid things you did between 13 and 25 may not be something that needs to be brought up unless necessary.